Kingdom Spouses vs Twin Flames

“According to twin flame philosophy, once you and your twin flame find each other,
you’ll work, possibly over lifetimes, to achieve unification — a challenging
and sometimes painful process that requires healing and spiritual growth.
The two of you rinse and repeat, potentially across multiple lifetimes,
until your soul evolution is complete.”

What Are Twin Flame Relationships and Are They Healthy? by Cleveland Clinic

The term “twin flames” seems more honorable at first glance than it is because Satan is good at disguising things that destroy us as something positive. It’s this idea that if you delve deeper into your traumas, somehow, you’ll be able to overcome them and become something more, something divine. Yet this idea, without having God as the leading light to guide our souls, becomes another rabbit hole of codependency, trauma bonding, and entitlement to having someone else. This is ultimately a perversion of what God created because He desires us to be whole before we become one in matrimony with the future spouse that He has for us.

So what exactly is a “twin flame?” The term “twin flames” is a philosophy popular in the new age world, and with its popularity increasing as our culture hyper-idolizes romantic relationships. Oftentimes, this philosophy pairs well with the belief in reincarnation, as the idea that these souls are meant to be in “every lifetime,” which seemingly makes this connection transcend time and physics. A supernatural-sounding connection in a mundane and monotonous materialistic world will always sound good, but just because toilet water is available to drink when you’re thirsty doesn’t mean we have to be like a dog and drink from this tainted well. In an increasingly lonely world, a relationship promising to fulfill us by getting us to mesh as one, in this ecstatic and seemingly divine union, painting daily connections as the backdrop to this union, creates the perfect set-up for the person and the union itself to become an idol. One person can never be our everything. That feeling of wanting to become one with something bigger than us can only be fulfilled by the Holy Spirit. The danger of letting one person become the ultimate place of healing for someone else, a perceived soul they deem to be their “twin flame,” ultimately dehumanizes the person and turns them into yet another tool for becoming who they are meant to be.

It’s as though the term “soulmate” has been put on spiritual steroids when it comes to a “twin flame” connection. Many people often fall into this delusion through the use of divination tools like tarot, cartomancy (cards), astrology (stars), scrying (crystal balls/mirrors), runecasting (runes), and pendulums. Each of these divination tools believes that a higher power, a “spirit guide” if you will, will lead them to the truth of their fate. Fate, unlike destiny, is an occult lie that all of our life’s events are predetermined, inevitable, and outside of our personal control. This passive, resigned approach to life often allows the “spirit guide,” which is really a familiar spirit, to influence that person’s life.

While some of what these familiar spirits, which are actually demonic entities/evil spirits, may spew may seem true, they also provide false information to manipulate the diviner and create a dependency on them. These familiar spirits can speak some truth ONLY because these spirits have been following both people’s family lineages for a long time, observing them, and gaining outside information that only a spirit being can know. This does not make them omnipresent, but because they speak to the itching ears of people, which means speaking to their desires without challenging them, the confirmation bias people get from this spirituality leads them astray while they confidently believe they are within truth.

“So God created man in His own image,
in the image and likeness of God He created him;
male and female He created them.”

– Genesis 1:27 (Amplified Bible, Classic Edition)

For many years, I was convinced that I was non-binary. I didn’t see myself as a man nor a woman.

The reality is, every person that is born from God’s spirit that is in a relationship with us is directly a gift from God, a show of His grace and His love, and forcing someone into our lives through manifestation processes shows our issues with control.

“And he said, ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother
and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’
Since they are no longer two but one,
let no one split apart what God has joined together.”

– Matthew 19:5-6 (New Living Translation)

There is an unspoken standard in our society that you aren’t complete if you aren’t in a romantic relationship. You don’t even have to get married to be seen as “more complete,” and even if the relationship is toxic, as long as you are able to portray it as fulfilling on the internet, it can easily become “goals.” But this hyper-focus on others in romantic relationships, this fear that we will always be alone and never be chosen, and this passion that is stirred inside of us due to fleshy desires are wasted on this lie called “twin flames.”

How does the devil bring up this idea? Through the use of divination. There are an endless number of Tarot card readings freely available online that can lead you to believe that someone that God never intended to be in your life, especially closely in a romantic relationship, that will lead to you letting someone into the depths of your heart, because it seems divinely ordained, that when there is constant breakups and codependant behaviors, you’ll overlook it because “love conquers all.” And while love DOES conquer all, true love doesn’t ask you to diminish yourself for this “twin soul.” If you have to adapt to someone’s trauma and their toxic thought patterns and behaviors, then this is NOT a relationship that God sent.

The blessing of the Lord—it makes [truly] rich, and He adds no sorrow with it [neither does toiling increase it].

– Proverbs 10:22 (Amplified Bible, Classic Edition)

So what makes a Kingdom Spouse different? If God confirms to you that someone is meant to be your spouse, doubts, unbelief, and false views of ourselves may continuously torment the Standing Spouse, who has an intimate relationship with Jesus Christ, and covers the Prodigal Spouse in prayer. The Prodigal Spouse, like in the parable of the prodigal son, is far away from the Lord.

Parable of the Lost Son
“To illustrate the point further, Jesus told them this story: A man had two sons.
The younger son told his father, ‘I want my share of your estate now before you die.’
So his father agreed to divide his wealth between his sons.

A few days later this younger son packed all his belongings and moved to a distant land,
and there he wasted all his money in wild living. About the time his money ran out,
a great famine swept over the land, and he began to starve.
He persuaded a local farmer to hire him, and the man sent him
into his fields to feed the pigs.

The young man became so hungry that even the pods he was feeding the pigs looked good to him.
But no one gave him anything.

When he finally came to his senses, he said to himself,
At home even the hired servants have food enough to spare,
and here I am dying of hunger! I will go home to my father and say,
‘Father, I have sinned against both heaven and you,
and I am no longer worthy of being called your son.
Please take me on as a hired servant.’

So he returned home to his father.
And while he was still a long way off, his father saw him coming.
Filled with love and compassion, he ran to his son, embraced him, and kissed him.

His son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against both heaven and you,
and I am no longer worthy of being called your son.’

But his father said to the servants, ‘Quick! Bring the finest robe in the house
and put it on him. Get a ring for his finger and sandals for his feet.
And kill the calf we have been fattening.
We must celebrate with a feast, for this son of mine was dead
and has now returned to life.
He was lost, but now he is found.’

So the party began.

Meanwhile, the older son was in the fields working.
When he returned home, he heard music and dancing in the house,
and he asked one of the servants what was going on.
‘Your brother is back,’ he was told, ‘and your father has killed the fattened calf.
We are celebrating because of his safe return.’

The older brother was angry and wouldn’t go in.
His father came out and begged him, but he replied,
‘All these years I’ve slaved for you and never once refused
to do a single thing you told me to. And in all that time you never gave me
even one young goat for a feast with my friends.
Yet when this son of yours comes back after squandering your money on prostitutes,
you celebrate by killing the fattened calf!’

His father said to him,
‘Look, dear son, you have always stayed by me, and everything I have is yours.
We had to celebrate this happy day.
For your brother was dead and has come back to life!
He was lost, but now he is found!’”

– Luke 15:11-32 (New Living Translation)